Really, NFL???



To read it on the NFL’s website, the league made a grand compromise in creating their 2018 national anthem policy? The agreement? Any player who kneels during the anthem will cost their team a fine. Not the player, the team! And what did the players get? Well if they really want to protest, they can just stay off the field while the anthem is being played.


To be sure, this is no compromise. This is the NFL ownership reminder the players that they sign their paychecks. The only person who can really make a difference on this issue now is an owner with integrity enough to pay the fine incurred by a protesting player without punishing said player…

… yeah, you won’t catch me holding my breath waiting for that one!

In sports, there is no greater insult that can hurled than that you’re “hurting the team”. That’s the psychology being used here. A player’s actions will now reflect as a mark on the team instead of being an individual act of free speech. Players who violate the policy will be labeled as “selfish”. It’s the one thing no one wants to be called in the ultimate team sport.

What really pisses me off about this is that Trump will play this as a win. And he’ll be right. His interference was likely the catalyst that got this issue to move. In reality, this should make everyone angry. It should anger those of us who care about free speech, speaking truth to power, and protest, and it should anger those pro-business folks that the highest office in the nation can be used to manipulate a private company’s policy. Sure, that kind of thing is okay in Mother Russia, but… I’ve said too much…

So that’s it, sports fans! The NFL has likely succeeded in silencing their players in this particular way. I doubt we’ll see much kneeling this season and the players who decide to stay off of the field will be ignored.

But players are smarter than they are given credit for. The ones who care about what is happening on our streets and in their communities will continue to set up foundations and non-profits, speak up in interviews, and find other ways to make their presence felt.

And Colin Kaepernick is still out there. This latest move by the NFL functionally ends his career. To many in the NFL, he is a martyr and the symbolism of his martyrdom shouldn’t be overlooked. There will be others who strike out from within the league to speak for justice. There will be others willing to face career suicide because he went before them.

And let’s not forget the fans. The assumption that the NFL was made was that their ratings were down because of players protesting. This ignored the downward trend that ratings had been on several years before Kaepernick became a household name for what he did off the field. I think the league is in for a rude awakening. This move will ostracize far more fans than kneeling players did and they aren’t the type of fans who are likely to come back. They’re the type who are tired of being silenced and seeing others silenced. They’re the type who will find their entertainment elsewhere. They’re the type whose values go beyond paying lip service respect to country and service. The league may soon learn how costly it is to double down on intolerance…

Update: Well, I’ll be damned! The chairman of the New York Jets has come out publicly and said that he will pay his player’s fines if they decide to protest. Christopher Johson had this to say: “If somebody [on the Jets] takes a knee, that fine will be borne by the organization, by me, not the players. I never want to put restrictions on the speech of our players. Do I prefer that they stand? Of course. But I understand if they felt the need to protest. There are some big, complicated issues that we’re all struggling with, and our players are on the front lines. I don’t want to come down on them like a ton of bricks, and I won’t. There will be no club fines or suspensions or any sort of repercussions. If the team gets fined, that’s just something I’ll have to bear.”

I am shocked! I’m not pleasantly surprised very often, but this definitely counts. Good for Mr. Johnson. I hope that other team officials will follow suit.

What’s wrong with me?


I’ve been asking myself that question since Saturday…

“What’s wrong with me?”

On Saturday I resigned from my position. I won’t here go in to detail as to what made it feel necessary. I didn’t actually think it would come to this. I was as surprised as anyone.

I cried on Saturday night. It was the long, ugly cry that I had been waiting for since finding out that I would not be renewed to good standing. I’ll confess that it was an alcohol-fueled cry. I thought finally crying would be cathartic. It wasn’t. All it did was bring all the layers of pain that I have been feeling to the surface. I felt rejected and abandoned. I felt worthless and replaceable. I felt a little crazy. I still do.

I don’t actually feel like I know how to be in the world right now. I don’t know what if anything I have to offer. I know I have family and friends who love me. I know have kids who need me and that keeps me from doing anything rash… but I don’t know what my place is. I don’t know if I have a place.

Why can’t I just get my shit together?

Why did I have to fuck everything up in the first place?

When do I get to stop feeling like such a failure?

I ask all of those questions rhetorically. They don’t have real answers, not ones that would satisfy me anyway. What I have right now is a deep sense of my own inadequacy. There are some who will say “that’s a good thing”. Such a person might go on to tell me how God’s strength is perfected in my weakness. Such a person can go kick rocks! I don’t believe in a God who wants me to feel what I am feeling right now.

I feel lost and I have for a solid month now. I feel completely disoriented. My whole world has been built around the church for so long. I see people having milestones in their ministries and I hate them for it. I can’t be around church talk for long before I get agitated. I want to rage at the systems and people that are making me feel this way.

But then… I come back to my original question.

See, no one is “making” me feel this way. I feel this way. Because I’m not spiritually mature enough? Because I’m not integrated enough? Whatever… it’s because I’m deficient. That has been the clear message of the last month. I am not enough.

Of course, I don’t believe that. Not fully, anyway. It’s taken so much work to differentiate myself from my professional identity, to realize that my worth is not in what I do. But that gets harder to believe when no one seems to want you to do what you do around them.

And yes, maybe that means I need to find a new thing to do. But I used to be really good at what I did. Or at least I felt like I was. People told me I was. I’ve lost that too.

Please don’t read this as wallowing. I will pick myself up. I have to. I have four little people that need me to do so. In some ways, I am stronger than I have ever been. One day these feelings will be distant images in the rearview.

Right now? Right now I’m tired. I’m angry. I’m sad…

…and I’m wondering what’s wrong with me…

What Do I Do Now?

The first thing I ever wanted to be was a pastor.

That’s weird, right?

Not a fireman, not an astronaut, not a kangaroo.

A pastor.

Though that ambition changed over time, when I came back to it in my twenties, it was in one of those moments when I audibly heard the voice of God asking me “what was the first thing you ever wanted to do?”. From that point on, a path seemed clear.

Yesterday, Pittsburgh Presbytery decided that they would not restore me to good standing. While not outright stripping me of my ordination, it returns me to a state of limbo where I could one day seek restoration again if I so chose to subject myself to this process again.

I know what I did was wrong. I had a relationship with a parishioner, one of the cardinal no-no’s in ministry. And it cost me. It cost me my family, my dream job, my reputation. And it hurt lots of people. People in the church, my family, people at my work.

But from the time I self reported until yesterday there was always talk about grace, restoration, “God’s not done with you yet”-language. There was always hope. Yesterday that hope was dashed. Even my ex-wife, the person hurt most by my actions, was saddened by the news.

I’m glad that I don’t believe the things about myself that were written in the discernment committee’s report. They painted this picture of this unrepentant monster, who lives blissfully unaware of the lives impacted by his decisions. They took shots at my character and my family. They used my honesty against me and questioned my spiritual maturity. Most importantly, they ignored the recommendations of people who know me best and made decisions based on their subjective impressions instead of on the objective steps I’ve taken to get my life back in order. It was among the most hurtful experiences of my life. I don’t understand how this presbytery, which at the last GA made a public stand on doing ministry to black men could so callously throw me away. I mean… I do understand… it just hurts.

I don’t know what to do now. My life as a Presbyterian minister is likely over. I could switch denominations, but that’s not a move I consider lightly. Also, I’m disgusted with the institution right now, and I don’t know how I feel about exchanging one set of hypocrites for another. I don’t know what I’m gonna do…

The first thing I ever wanted to be was a pastor.

I spent most of the last two decades working toward that end in some form or another.

Now it’s all gone.

What am I supposed to do now?

Is this fast sustainable?: Seven things I observed this Lent.


This year for Lent I knew I wanted to do something revolving around food. A few years back I gave up meat for Lent and I considered doing that again. I also considered giving up, sugar, alcohol. processed food, and fast food. After careful consideration, I decided that I wasn’t so much seeking a discipline of what I eat, but of how I eat. i wanted to think more deeply about the sources of my food and the impact that my eating had on the community that surrounds me. So, I did a Lenten discipline of eating locally sourced food when I could and when not possible, to make sure that what I was eating was organic.

  1. Fast food is out! Most major chains were eliminated as well. Chipotle was the only big chain that has much reliable information about how they source their food. Baja Fresh and Panera Bread were also reasonable options, but I virtually had no options with a drive thru window. Though not surprising, it did give me pause to think about where these chains that serve millions of people get their produce and meat and the scale of agricultural businesses required to provide for that kind of demand. It’s frightening to think about.
  2. Cha-ching! My options were primarily limited by what I was willing to pay for. I suppose that’s always true, but it was interesting to note that very few things were off the table. Locally, we have MOM’s organic market. Not only is it a great source of local vegetables and meats, it has a wide range of organic, fair trade, and locally sourced snacks, frozen foods, and value added items. The major difference between shopping at MOM’s and any other grocery store was the price tag. Everything was just a bit more expensive which added up when you finally got to the cash register. Still, I can’t really argue that I was deprived of anything.
  3. Drink up! During Lent I also endeavored to keep my beverages local and/or organic. For coffee, seeing as how Baltimore is in no way tropical, that meant going organic. Again, only a hardship at the cash register. But for my adult beverages, I can’t say that I made much of a sacrifice. It seems like there are hundreds of breweries within a fifty mile radius of me and more than a few distilleries. I probably could have done a bit more sleuthing about how my local booze providers sourced their ingredients, but I contented myself with keeping money circulating in the local economy on my end.
  4. Alienation. There were two moments early in Lent that were more than a little isolating. The first was when I made a pot of spaghetti for the kids then a second pot of “organic” spaghetti for me. By the time mine was finished, the kids were ready to run away from the dinner table. Organic spaghetti for one, please! The second was similar, a taco night when I had different shells, meat, and cheese than the rest off the tribe. As Lent went on, more and more of the family’s everyday products became organic and I didn’t have to feel like I was on a “special” diet, but it did make me think of how lonely it can feel to not eat what everyone else is eating.
  5. Finding Farmers. When Lent began, I had grand aspirations about going to visit farms, getting to know the animals I was going to eat, and making lifetime friendships with the people who work so hard to food on our tables. It didn’t seem all that ambitious at the time, but it never materialized. In part, I blame the weather. Our Lenten weeks were among our coldest and grayest of the year. I confess to losing motivation to visit farms during the wind and snow. The other thing is that farmers are generally invisible when it’s not farmers’ market season. Now “invisible” is often more about what you choose to see, but in my normal day to day, I don’t pass many farms. Now that we are actually entering farmers’ market season (THANK GOD!!!!), I do plan on being a bit more diligent about my grand ambitions to make friends with farmers.
  6. Pretentious? More often than feeling like I was making a sacrifice, I often just felt like I was being bougee. (boujee? bougie? whatever). Let’s face it, the food I ate during this period was better quality, more expensive, and harder to find. There is an air of class superiority in places like MOM’s that I think goes unspoken but is very real. Again, this is part of why I want to see the healthier side of our food system more democratized. You shouldn’t have to pay extra to make sure your beef isn’t pumped with antibiotics or that your broccoli hasn’t been doused in pesticides.
  7. Read the signs. The final thing I will say about eating “organic” is that not all organic is created equal. The USDA is continually easing the restrictions on what is considered “organic”, so much so that Wal-Mart is the largest supplier of organic meat and vegetables in the country. At the same time, many local farmers who use organic and sustainable practices aren’t willing to pay the expense for the official USDA certification. If given the chance, I would rather buy from a farmer I know than to buy a certified organic tomato that had to be transported 2000 miles to get to me, especially since transportation is where most of the fossil fuels are used in industrial agriculture.

As Americans, we’re addicted to cheap food. We spend the smallest percentage of our income on food of any developed country in the world. And, generally speaking, we get what we’ve paid for: diabetes, obesity, hypertension, bland strawberries flown in from South America, and pineapples in places where they are not native. The bottom line for me is that we could eat in ways that are better for our health, better for our communities, and better for the planet if we were just willing to pay a bit more. My faith asks me to love my neighbor, and if loving my neighbor means paying a bit extra for produce, isn’t that worth it?


Do I Have a Green Thumb?

Over the weekend, I was presenting a paper. Surprising no one, that paper was on creation care and the importance of growing our own food. I think it was fairly well received and the group that was assembled had a robust conversation abut it as we did with all the papers that were shared. I didn’t get much push back on the content of my paper, but one of the places I did get some resistance caught me off guard. I made the assertion that everyone can grow something. Some of us tend to overwater; maybe start with tomatoes. Some of us tend to under-water. Try oregano. Everyone can grow something, I said somewhat confidently.


At least that’s what I was told. A lot of people take a murdered a houseplant or an unproductive zucchini as a sign that we just can’t grow anything. The accompanying assumption, then, is that those of us who can and do maintain gardens have a magical ability, colloquially referred to as a “green thumb”. For some reason, this idea really rubs me the wrong way.

The assertion that I have a green thumb has been made by several of my friends who have seen pictures of my garden on social media. I think I can safely say that it is always meant as a compliment. Accompanying that compliment to me though is an unspoken admission that they can’t do what I do. Actually, it’s not always unspoken. Some people explicitly state their inability to grow things. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been told “I kill everything” by people around me.

Besides generally wanting to avoid people who “kill everything”, I take issue with the idea that there is some special ability that some of us have to make things grow. I’ll admit, I’ve fallen prey to this line of thinking. When I think of “green thumbs”, I think of my grandmother. She had this E.T.-like quality to resurrect seemingly dead flowers. She also had a special batch of side-eye ready for you when she returned the revived plant to health. But what my Granny had wasn’t magic. It was knowledge.

Part of why I hate the idea of having a green thumb is that I hate the idea that being able to grow things makes me special. There was a time in human history where the inability to grow things was a death sentence. We’ve accepted, as a matter of progress in fact, that that knowledge is no longer a thing we need to possess. I think that is incredibly tragic!

I’ve likely killed as many plants as I’ve grown. I’ve also grown plenty of things that haven’t produced fruit. The thing is that with every attempt to grow something, I learn something. As kids we’re taught that plants need water and sunlight. What we’re not told is that certain plants need more water than others and certain need more sun than others. Some need lots of fertilizer. Some grow well together and some don’t. This isn’t stuff I know intuitively by virtue of my noble bloodline. It’s knowledge I gained through study, trial and error, and luck.

Yeah, luck is a part of it. As a gardener, some things are out of our control. Two years ago, I couldn’t keep up with all the zucchini that was growing in my garden. Last year, I couldn’t grow a zucchini to save my life, but I had tons of tomatoes. Turns out the heavy rainfall that was making my tomato plants so happy was likely rotting the roots of the summer squash. Things I don’t control include rainfall.

As I write this, the merger of Monsanto and Bayer continues to move forward. It’s been approved by the European Union and was recently approved by the U.S. justice department. I think it is incredibly dangerous that one company will have so much power over both our food supply and the drugs that care for numerous ailments, many of which are diet-based. I believe that democratization of our food system is a major way that we can counter industrial agriculture dictating what goes into our bodies. By giving up on our ability to grow things, we are giving up a bit of control concerning our own health. Restoring democratization in our food system might help us to restore democratization in other things… like our democracy.

I don’t expect everyone to be into gardening as much as I am. Some people simply don’t enjoy it. I get that. But I reject the notion that not everyone can do it. Because of that I reject the notion that lack of a green thumb is a legitimate excuse for not getting your hands in the dirt. Everyone can grow things.  In fact, I think it is our birthright. We’re meant to grow things. As I write this, I’m looking forward to this weekend, the first weekend of this spring where I’ll be able to spend a significant amount of time working in my garden bed. This will my fourth summer growing in this spot and I’ll take everything I’ve learned from the previous years and apply it the best I can to this year. Plus, I’ll try out a few new thing! That’s how I learn. Trust me, there’s nothing I would love more than to say that I have some sort of magic touch, but it just ain’t so. So put away your excuses and go get your hands dirty!


Will You Save Us?


Mark 11:9-10

Then those who went ahead and those who followed were shouting,
Blessed is the one who comes in the name of the Lord! 
   Blessed is the coming kingdom of our ancestor David!
Hosanna in the highest heaven!’

Jesus enters his people’s capital city, surrounded by crowds of people shouting “Save us!”. My guess is some significant percentage of preachers this Sunday drew parallels between this scene and the march that happened on Saturday. My wife and many of my friends were a part of the crowd that descended upon D.C. Many other friends and associates took place in marches in other parts of the country. The message of the marches was clear; after decades of intransigence on the issue of gun control, maybe it takes the presence and voices of the nation’s young people to finally move the needle on this epidemic.
While many of my friends participated in marches, there was another subsection of my world asking “where was this crowd when the movement for black lives needed them?” The white and light-skinned faces of the Parkland students seem to have captured America’s attention in a way that seems to carry more weight than the many black faces that have appeared on our screens (?) over the last few years. While I don’t think anyone  begrudges the Parkland students, who have by and large said all the right things in terms of giving credit to Black Lives Matter activists and the silencing of their classmates of color, it is endemic of a pattern of behavior in American public life. Nothing is really a problem until it is a problem for white people.
But, hey, why let the perfect be the enemy of the good, right?
Today it was announced that officers involved in Alton Sterling’s death will not be charged. The two white officers who gunned down Sterling claim that he was properly warned and also likely intoxicated. This is, of course, just days after Stephon Clark was gunned down in his own backyard in Sacramento. We know that police are capable of taking down a shooting suspect without killing them. Every recent mass shooting by a white man has proven this.
But school shootings and police shootings are different, right?
Yes! One is a citizen using violence against another citizen, the other is the state using violence against its citizens. School shootings are heinous and we have every right to demand that weapons of war be made inaccessible to the general population. But does the fact that the shooter has a badge mitigate the damage done to families and communities? Are youth in Baltimore and Ferguson less traumatized than youth in Parkland or Sandy Hook? Did the seventeen kids at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High have more right to exist than Trayvon Martin or Tamir Rice?
 I have all the respect in the world for the young people who marched across this country and for the adults who supported them. I hope that something positive comes from it. But the fact of the matter is that we have a fundamental issues of values in this country that gives additional worth to some people while denying worth to others. If it is morally reprehensible for citizens to gun each other down than it should be even more so for those who are sworn to serve and to protect the citizenry to violate that oath in the name of law and order.
At the end of the day, it was the state that executed Jesus. Not some lone “crazy” person. Not a guy experiencing economic anxiety. Not some misunderstood loner. It was the state that the people cried to be saved from, a state that believed in maintaining order through shows of violence. Jesus marches into the city showing that there can be another way. And that way is the only thing that can save us.

“Dust” or “Soil”?


My friend Sam has quickly become one my favorite people. He is a UCC pastor that I met at the Just Food conference back in 2016. He lives not too far from me and serves a traditional UCC church. He is also the founder of a ministry called Keep & Till. K&T’s vision is “To See Rural Renewal Through Sustainable Agriculture and Environmental Responsibility Informed by Radical Christian Faith”.  Reading that, you can probably see why it is I like Sam. I generally categorize myself as a “fan” of K&T and have hung around the periphery of some of their work.

Sam posted a question on Facebook the other day that has been swimming around in my head all week:

Is there a difference “You are dust…” and “You are soil…”?

Let’s back up here for a second.

Today is Ash Wednesday, the beginning of the Lenten season. Most of my readers know that, but should you have just stumbled upon this blog due to random interweb hijinx, I’ll remind you that for Christians (not just Catholics) Lent is the season leading up to Easter that, a forty day journey of spiritual discovery that mirrors Jesus’ forty days in the wilderness. Oftentimes, during the imposition of ashes (when the holy person smudges dirt on your face) the words “remember that you are dust, to dust you shall return” are uttered. Many ministers like to add something else hopeful there, but I like to leave it like that. There’s nothing wrong with sitting with your own mortality for a night, or even a whole day.

So back to the question: would it be different for you if this Ash Wednesday you heard “remember that you are soil” instead of “dust”?

Sam’s friends, many of whom are likely also agrarian-minded, generally commented that the word “soil” gives the connotation of life (or at least the possibility of life), while “dust” hints at barrenness and death. I generally agree with those connotations.

Then, I did a little digging… see what I did there?

A very quick word study shows “apar” as the Hebrew word for dust while “adamah” is the word for soil. All well and good except that Genesis 2:7 uses both words back to back:

Then the Lord God formed man from the dust (apar) of the ground (adamah), and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and the man became a living being. 

Here we get God’s breath turning the “apar” into… wait for it… “adam”, the soil person.

The intuition is correct then that dust is soil minus the God-given breath of life. But we aren’t dust. We’re adam made from adamah.

For me, change in verbiage does a couple of important things. First and foremost, it reminds me more vividly of the natural cycles. The circle of life, if you will. We die and we become a part of the soil that nourishes new life. As far as we might try to separate ourselves from that reality, we can’t avoid it. To say that we are soil reminds us of our rightful place in the natural world and should create in us some humility.

More fun with words, “humility” comes from the same root as “humus” and “human”. Humility is recognizing your humanity… which is that you are humus.

The second thing that this change of wording does for me is that it elevates the status of soil to the level of humanity. In other words, soil, like humans, should be cared for. As I talk to friends like Sam and learn more about organic food movements, one of the common refrains that is repeated is soil health. I’m learning about how corporate agriculture degrades soil quality making chemicals more necessary that also hurt the soil as well as the consumers. I’m learning about how monoculture drains the soil of nutrients and leads to soil erosion (dust). I’m learning about the practices, most of which are ancient and widely known, that can lead to soil health like fallow seasons and crop rotation. Soil health has everything to do with how and what we eat. Soil health then is human health.

My lenten discipline this year is to eat as local as possible and to at least eat organic when I can’t eat local. This will mean spending a bit more on food, likely eating less meat, and all but eliminating the drive thru which has sadly become a staple of my diet. Fortunately, both Baltimore and Arlington give me a lot of good local and organic food options, but as I prayerfully move through the season, I’ll be thinking about why good food is harder to access and ways to bring the health that I have the luxury and privilege to pursue to more people.

I can’t not mention the proposed changes to SNAP that the administration is suggesting. Simply put, I think they are evil. It is dehumanizing to tell people what they must eat and not give them the option to eat more healthily. It deprives people of choice. It deprives people of dignity. It may deprive people of needed calories to get through their day. It may also deprive people of the joy that eating should be, sometimes the only joy that people living in poverty know. This is a move to further stigmatize poverty and it should infuriate people.

Back to our question… the final thing that changing “dust” into “soil” does for me is give me hope, a thing which is in short supply these days. “Dust” gives the sense of annihilation or oblivion. “Soil”… well, maybe it’s because I’m a gardener, but soil is hopeful. Soil says “possibility”. Soil says “potential”. Soil says “not the end”.

I don’t mind considering my mortality, I really don’t. I probably think about more than I should. But when I do think about death, I don’t like to think of it as an ending, but rather as a transition. My life ends in its current form and life then takes a new form.


I love things like The Living Urn that take human remains and use them as the medium in which to grow a plant or a tree. I love the idea that what’s left of me could be used to nourish a plant that could provide food or shade for others. My theology is such that death is not an end. New life can and does happen. That gives me hope!

Remember that you are soil and to soil you will return.